Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude.
Attitude is the way we think and it affects our entire lives. In fact, attitude determines how our lives turn out. That's a scary thought for many people to accept, but to me it's the most exciting thing I've ever learned! "Why?" you may ask. Because I realized that only I can control my thinking and, if it's true that how we think determines how our lives turn out, then by controlling my thinking I can control my life! I think you'll have to agree that's exciting!
If you're reading this for the first time, you may be skeptical. "my thoughts determine my life's outcome? Who says so?"
Well, first, the Bible: "As he [a person] thinketh in his heart, so is he" (Proverbs 23:7). Follow that up with just about every great philosopher in history, here are just two examples:
Marcus Aurelius: "Our life is what our thoughts make it." He also said: "The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts."
Khalil Gibran: "Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you by the way your mind looks at what happens."
Now consider that no one can make you think anything. Only you have the final say on what ideas, thoughts, or people you allow to influence your thinking. Perhaps now you can begin to understand how important controlling your thinking is.
Our thoughts determine our feelings, our feelings determine our actions, our actions determine our habits, our habits determine our results and our results determine our life's outcome. It all starts with how you think.
This is awesome and sobering because it also means that where we are in life right now is a result of our past thinking and not because of what someone else did or didn't do. We can no longer blame our parents, teachers, spouse, etc. for our present situation. It's our responsibility.
Those who have the courage to accept this as true will end up changing their lives to whatever they want them to be. The bottom line is to train ourselves to look for the positive in every situation, to expect everything to turn out for the best and to consistently act accordingly. Not easy. In fact, Wallace D. Wattles, in his classic The Science of Getting Rich, said that it's the hardest labor in the world. This is why 99% of people in the world live in poverty and failure or, at best, mediocrity. They either don't know or they're not prepared to put in the mental effort. It also explains why I percent of the world's population controls 95% of all money in the world. They do know, and they were prepared to put in the effort!
So, starting today, we need to become aware of exactly what it is we're thinking about most, because we gravitate toward our dominant thoughts. Simply put, if we're constantly thinking about lack, that's what we'll attract more of. If we're constantly thinking illness, unhappiness, failure, etc., we need to change and start thinking about what it is that we want (health, happiness, success, etc.). Thoughts are energy and we need to stop giving energy to what we do want.
In other words, where we are right now in life is a result of our past thinking. As I said, this is exciting because it means that we are responsible for our present circumstances, we can't blame anyone else. It also means we are responsible for our future!
Changing our attitude from negative to positive is the single most important thing you can do to change your life. Not only will it influence your success, it will also improve your health, your relationships, your finances and your spiritual life. I think you'll have to agree that it'll be worth making the effort.
The exciting thing is that it takes just 30 days to create a habit or in this case, change a habit- negative thinking. The first step is to become aware of what we are habitually thinking. Until we start consciously monitoring our thoughts, we won't be aware of how negatively we think.
Unfortunately, the normal inputs we receive are mostly negative. From the moment we are born, we are constantly bombard with negative messages: "Don't do that," "You can't...," "Stop dreaming and be realistic," and so on. In addition, the media continually bombards us with negative news. Is it any wonder that we automatically develop a negative outlook?
Start becoming aware of each thought, and if it's negative, reject it and replace it with a positive thought. After doing this for just 30 days, it will become habitual and you'll find your whole outlook will have changed for the better. A fantastic way to reinforce this is to start telling ourselves good stuff known as positive affirmations. Over 90 percent of all conversations we have, we have with ourselves.
We are constantly talking to ourselves in our minds and because of negative conditioning, what we say is generally self-defending and often self-destructive. For instance, if debt is a problem, don't talk about debt, not even getting out of debt, because debt is still the focus. Instead talk about being financially free. Do this with your emotion and as if it's already happened. "I'm so happy and grateful that I am financially free!" At the same time, actively avoid all negative inputs.
Whether you think you can, or you think you can't, you're right. So think accordingly.